Saturday, July 30, 2016

Life mein thora twist hona mangta hai...

Life is what you make of it, literally. You are creating your own reality at each moment, at each breath that you take. So, why create something sad or unhappy? Create something unexpected, surprising, and who knows, maybe something a little risky too. After all, life mein risk nahi liya toh kya kiya? Although, that doesn't mean swimming through the gutter water of waterlogged Gurugram! It means more than that, it means swimming with the sharks. The fun is in beating the sharks in their own game and winning it even when you reek of blood from your open wounds.

When you are stuck in a situation, there comes a time when you don't want to be bothered about it anymore. You just want to say, 'Enough, I have given too much mind space to you, let me move on to something else.' And, when you say that, you feel a certain lightheartedness about it, you start feeling to be yourself. You connect with your inner self. And when you do so, you don't find a boring you, you find that naughty self all over again that had gotten buried deep under some rubbish - mostly thrown by people who were clearing their own houses.

So, after you scrub yourself clean and dabble some extra perfume, you are ready to face the world all over again. It's time to reclaim it, make it your own, and be the bindaas person you have always been.

Let the veil of predictability be taken off, after all, life mein thora twist hona mangta hai na ;)

Monday, July 18, 2016

Her life is yours too...

She often wonders how sometimes life comes smacking on her face. Just when she wants to forget things, go about distracting herself, laugh with friends or simply work to numb her senses, things take a turn towards a signpost that bleeds her heart out.

The cards were dealt and she was winning at it. She was finally defeating that dreaded pain and hurt. And, that's when it happened. She was at Cloud 9 when the thunder struck and thrashed her to the ground.

As she lay there, bruised and hurt, she wondered what just happened. But she knew she need to get up.

She mustered enough courage to get going. She lifted her aching limbs slowly and with great difficulty stood up. As she wobbled to regain her strength, she was hit by a double whammy. Another unexpected blow, a cloud burst and her very being was threatened to be swept off.

They tried their best, but they were never prepared for her resolute self. She stood by the deluge, rooting herself to the very ground she knew will never give away.

She started with a smile again, a small step again, a dream again. She knows no matter how hard life hits her, she will get up each time and face it with a twinkle in her eyes. No, they cannot take that away from her, never.

Friday, July 15, 2016

Those 'God' complex people

There are certain people in this wide weird world who think that they are always right. They never make a mistake. They are those 'godlike' characters who can even put 'God' to shame with their 'perfect' ideologies. And, of course, we have all met such people in our lives.

They are the classic 'me only'. For them, it is my way or highway. Interestingly, even when you are appalled by their blatant narcissist behaviour, you often find yourself mum at their actions. They are so damn sure about themselves that they quieten the others with a stare. And, the 'aura' that they carry, even the Queen of Sheba may start feeling inferior in front of them.

They are the know-it-alls, and never listen. For them, they know the best and others are mere fillers and duds.

Question is, how do you handle such people?

The best thing to do is to move away from such people. But then again, they might be a part of your life, what do you do in such a case? As they continue with their bad behaviour, do you start apologising to others on their behalf or you finally muster enough courage to tell them to stop it?

The answer is not easy. But, sometimes you may just have to put your foot down and regain your self-esteem. And, the sooner you do it, the better for you!

Why we delay doing something right?

I chanced upon an Osho talk a few days ago, wherein the spiritual guru said something so relevant about this question. He said that when it comes to doing something wrong, we never consult anybody, we don’t even listen to our conscience, we just do it. If it means hurting someone, be jealous of somebody, inflict our anger or hatred, we just go ahead do it. But, when it comes to doing the opposite, as in doing something good and right, we bottle it up. We say let the right moment come and we would do it then or let me consult someone before doing this.

Question is, why do we delay taking a decision that we inertly know is right?

It might be because doing something right requires courage. It is often against the norm or the general tide. It could be something challenging or even life-altering.

And, that’s where the problem arises. Reminds me of a line from ‘Step Up 3’. “It’s never easy to take the most important decisions in life.”

And, of course, all the important decisions in life are the ones that concerns doing something right, right?

Friday, July 1, 2016

Love me thoda aur

So when the puppy love strikes, you feel the butterflies in your stomach, the world goes round and you hear music in the air. Happened to all of us when we were young, happy and without a doubt in our head. 

As you grew old, you wised up. You became cautious. You started to trust less, even the one you loved and married. You made boundaries around yourself. You were inaccessible.

But, isn’t that just the opposite of being in love. If you love someone, you need to be vulnerable, you need to let yourself get hurt, and understand that nothing is perfect, and of course, that there is nothing called ‘happily forever’…

It’s this expectation of ‘being happy’ in love portrayed in movies and books that creates undue pressure in any relationship. You want your love life to be ‘bookish’ or ‘filmy’, with Raj serenading you in the laps of Swiss valley and Simran running to catch the train. Ask yourself, do you really need that bull crap in your life?

Won’t it be better to be who you are, and let your partner be who he is, and express your love to each other in an original manner? Innovate, be creative, surprise each other, or just laze together on the couch the entire Sunday. Forget about the dishes, the food, the grocery, the bills, the family, the friends. For a few moments, just look into each other’s eyes, and if need be, you may sing that puppy song all over again, “love me thoda aur….” J