Thursday, May 31, 2012

Do not run for comfort

Why is there a need for constant reassurances? Why do we always run to people to seek shelter in their arms? Why are we struggling against odds to be comforted by another human being?

We do all these because we are not whole in ourselves. We are incomplete in our own being, and we look for others to fill that gap. But, in doing so, we forget that, that gap is in us and not in them and therefore, it can only be filled by us and nobody else. Unless we are whole in ourselves, we can never expect to find true happiness. The itch towards running at something would continue to torment us.

So, what should one do? Simple, stop this chase, stop trying to be what someone else wants you to be, stop being a doormat at someone’s whim, stop believing that without another person in your life you would be incomplete, alone, stop thinking that someone else would help you fill that void in your life.

Look within, you will find that light which will guide you home. When you become whole in yourself, you will experience a magical moment and in that moment you will see the truth. It will dissolve all your insecurities, your irrationalities, the chaos in your life, and somewhere you would find yourself admiring the many wonders of life. And who knows, at that juncture you may find the one you were searching for so long.

As Bukowski has once famously said:

your life is your life
don’t let it be clubbed into dank submission.
be on the watch.
there are ways out.
there is a light somewhere.
it may not be much light but
it beats the darkness.
be on the watch.
the gods will offer you chances.
know them.
take them.
you can’t beat death but
you can beat death in life, sometimes.
and the more often you learn to do it,
the more light there will be.
your life is your life.
know it while you have it.
you are marvelous
the gods wait to delight
in you.

Yes, your life is your life, do not let anyone or anything dictate you.

Kill the ego

There is something that I am struggling with these days, to kill my ego. With certain knowing, people start feeling special, that they are privileged, that because of certain qualities in them they have been chosen over others. And the moment such a feeling comes in, be sure that the downfall would be swift. To be humble is the key to learn, because the moment I say, I know all and I am the best, I would stop my own growth, I would stop learning.

The other day while reading a writer on New Age, I was surprised to read how she kept talking about her experiences in a flamboyant manner. Yeap, it is important to share so that others would know about things, but it should not make the reader feel inferior. There was an underlying tinge of pride and feeling of being above others in her writing. There is a very thin line between stating the facts that created positive impact in your life and letting it get into your head.

So, how do you curb such a feeling? By killing the ego, the veil that is cutting us from our real self. It is not easy to keep the ego under check, after all, it is just human to feel elated, to feel good about our achievements, to bask in the glory, in the praises showered on us by others. But, it is equally essential to keep a stable head on our shoulders. To keep reminding ourselves that we are just means to get certain things done. To say that we are not God. To look at each individual and say that all of us are special, all of us are the children of love. The trick is to keep reminding ourselves of this and the day we internalize this, we will win the race against our ego.

Almost on a daily basis, and even sometimes a couple of times in a day, I have to remind myself of this. It is so easy to be vain, so tempting to impose yourself on others. I am walking this thin line, often faltering. I am not perfect, I am weak, I have a fa├žade that I put on for the world and I struggle to keep this ego under check. But I do believe that someday I would be able to look straight into the eyes of my ego and tell her to take a walk!

Wednesday, May 30, 2012

Finding you

What do you do when all of a sudden you get a horrible sunken feeling? As if, something has just slipped off your hands like sand between your fingers, and as much as you try to hold it, you lose it in equal proportion. How do you deal with such a mood swing, when just out of blue you feel sad, irritated, frustrated and above all angry, not at the world, but at yourself, for letting yourself get into such a position, for taking all those wrong decisions? You feel sick at how people behave around you, some with their fake smiles, some with fake concerns and some just plain mean, trying to get a laugh at your expense. What do you do in such a case?

And then again, deep inside you know, this is all shit, that such things does not really mean anything. That you are wasting your precious energy by going through such stupid emotions. But, don’t blame anyone else for it, it is all your doing, you are letting it effect you. When you know better then why do you get effected by it? Why can’t you keep your ego under check? Let the world say whatever, do whatever, they don’t know yet, but you do. It’s your knowing. And at a time, when you are moving towards truth, when you are searching for something obsessively, when you are trying to find some semblance and meaning in life, it is senseless to let anyone and anything effect you.

The reality that we see and feel with our eyes and ears everyday is just an illusion. Reality is beyond it and that we all know. It is this reality that we are seeking day in and out. Funny part is, we don’t really need to go far to find it, just look inside.

You will find you waiting for you for so long.

Tuesday, May 29, 2012

The half moon
The twinkling stars
The cloudless sky
The buzzing crickets...

The breezeless night
The motionless plants
The silent road
The humid stillness...

Are calling me
Are attuning me
Are making me dance
With bare feet...

Sunday, May 20, 2012

Marketing DDLJ

Watching DDLJ yet again made me realize that Raj has been the greatest marketing executive of love...

He re-branded himself by changing from ‘the guy moms warn about’ to ‘the guy moms love to want for their daughters’; he used B2B service to get himself introduced to the girl’s family; he never fails to feed the pigeons to impress girl’s dad, that’s customer loyalty program; fantastic brand recognition as ‘the guy who stole beer’; gets customer feedback by being beaten in the end; and his use of emotional appeal advertised him as ‘the guy who loves the girl the most in the world’.

Thus, was sold one of the greatest love stories of our time!

Saturday, May 19, 2012

Smile - it sets everything alright

Dare to Be

When a new day begins, dare to smile gratefully.

When there is darkness, dare to be the first to shine a light.

When there is injustice, dare to be the first to condemn it.

When something seems difficult, dare to do it anyway.

When life seems to beat you down, dare to fight back.

When there seems to be no hope, dare to find some.

When you’re feeling tired, dare to keep going.

When times are tough, dare to be tougher.

When love hurts you, dare to love again.

When someone is hurting, dare to help them heal.

When another is lost, dare to help them find the way.

When a friend falls, dare to be the first to extend a hand.

When you cross paths with another, dare to make them smile.

When you feel great, dare to help someone else feel great too.

When the day has ended, dare to feel as you’ve done your best.

Dare to be the best you can –

At all times, Dare to be!”

― Steve Maraboli, Life, the Truth, and Being Free

Sunday, May 13, 2012

Always leave the door open

Human beings are insecure lil gits, they need constant pampering, constant reassurances, that things are fine. Mind plays many games and we relentlessly think things, make up things, perceive things, things that are just in our heads, without any real applications. And in all these, we lose our hold on reality. That's when insecurity creeps in and in this insecurity we pretty much screw everything, our relationships, our confidence, our jobs et al. So, what should one do, you cannot become vulnerable, can you. Maybe or maybe not, but what you can certainly do is to keep that door open. If you shut it, you would never know who is waiting for you at the other end. Maybe it’s a long-lost friend, who wants to talk to you but that shut door would be a deterrent and he may just turn back and never return.

Only a few have the courage to knock at the door shut at their faces, and still a rare few have the courage to keep that door open for all. Now, it’s your decision where you want to belong.


Hope is what we need
Hope is what we seek
Hope is what pushes us on
Hope is what makes it fair
Hope is what I will talk here
A hope giving hope to the world out there.